Ephesians 5:15-16 See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

The Bible is a guide for daily living, offering wise insights into how we are to conduct our lives. Christianity is a faith for daily living, guiding us in how we are to think and act towards all. While Jesus certainly spoke about the end of the world, He demonstrated the Kingdom of God with His walk through this world. 

Not long ago, I had a conversation with a person who spoke of Christianity as though the end of the world was all that mattered. I got the impression that Revelation and Daniel were the only books in this person’s Bible. The whole conversation swirled around the dreaded things to come, prophesied by both the Old Testament and the New Testament. There seemed to be a certain glee in how the world would be judged and “sinners” would get what was coming. It was troubling. 

I left the conversation examining how I live my life daily as a reflection of Christ.  How do I demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit daily? Is my love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control on full display to all I meet? Are these on display to my neighbors of a different color, a different race, a different country, a different generation, a different sexual persuasion, a different political party, or a different economic status? I pray so.

Or am I so caught up in what’s to come that I never put my beliefs into action here and now? Am I so busy thinking about Revelation that I never stop to live out the revelation the Holy Spirit is making in my life daily? I pray not.

Christians are to be living for Christ now. We are to be demonstrating Christ to those around us now. We are to be treating people, some very different from us, with Christ-like love now. Christ says that no one knows when the end times are coming. In Matthew 24, Jesus suggests that the days leading up to the end will be very unremarkable – people will be marrying, eating, drinking,et cetera like any other day. 

In His time among us, Jesus ate with prostitutes and tax collectors. He healed lepers. He talked with those shunned and hated by society. If He were here this moment, He’d be doing the same with the modern day version of prostitutes, tax collectors, lepers, and others cast off from society. If we are like Him, we must be loving the same.

I remind myself tonight, as I sit in the comfort of my warm house, working on my PC, listening to a pastor speak on my TV, that Jesus is for daily living. His words were not for some far off day that I may or may not see this side of heaven. His words were directed to me to guide my daily walk with Him.

When we follow Christ, we’ll encounter those He encountered, those society has rejected. If not, can we say we’re truly following? If I’m truly a disciple, I’ll love them as He loved them, in every thought, word, and deed.

Luke 8:7 And some fell among thorns, and the thorns sprang up with it and choked it.

In Luke 8, Jesus gives us a parable about the seed and the sower. In it, He told us very clearly that the world and it’s cares will make all attempts to stop our Divine Purpose. The thorns that sprang up were explained in verse 14 – Now the ones that fell among thorns are those who, when they have heard, go out and are choked with cares, riches, and pleasures of life, and bring no fruit to maturity.

Many spend much time praying about purpose. Yet, the very things blocking that purpose are not addressed. The price is too high. The cost is too great. There’s pain in following passion. Fears and doubts assail.

God does not till the soil in our gardens… we do. God does not control the thorns… we do.

We either water the seeds or we water the weeds. Water takes the form of focus. We focus money, talents, time, and love through acts of choice. Like plants, that which receives more focus grows in our lives more. That which receives less focus grows less. We control the focus.

How brilliant that Jesus used thorns in the parable – sharp, painful to pull, hard to get rid of, will draw blood when mishandled, will grow out of control when left unchecked. The longer left unaddressed… the more difficult to bring under control. How wonderfully appropriate.

We pray that God will solve our issues, open our doors. When the issues remain and the doors stay closed, we cry out in frustration, griping, grumbling. We blame people. We blame circumstances. We blame God. Surely, the blame cannot rest in our own failure to address the thorns we see growing in our gardens. Surely, the fault cannot be mine.

The question is: are we tending our garden? Are we tearing up the weeds and watering the seeds? Are we braving the thorns and tearing them out by the roots, risking loss of blood and enduring pain in the process? Or are we sitting on the wall and asking God to do it all?

Philippians 4:13 says – I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Notice the verse starts with “I” and ends with “me”. There is personal price in following purpose. Many read this verse as – Christ, You do it all and I’ll watch. That’s not what it says though.

Make no mistake and understand: There is a price in purpose… a cost in calling… a pain in passion. If we want the promise, we must engage the process.

There is peace in “I am”. Often, people follow this statement with a descriptor – a mother, a father, a teacher, a pastor, a son, a daughter, a citizen, a worker, an addict, a sinner, an engineer… the list goes on and on. By adding these descriptors, we add requirements, duties, expectations. Any descriptor past “I am” serves to add anxiety, fear, shame, guilt, and pride… all worldly burdens.

God said, “I Am that I Am.” God is love, justice, wrath, compassion, generosity, and the list is infinite, but, when asked to box Himself in, God simply said, “I Am”. There is only peace to be found in this statement.

When I think of Him being “I Am”, I find no limit in who He is. God are You my father? “I Am”. God are You my Savior? “I Am” God will You always be with me? “I Am – I walk behind, in front, beside, and within… I Am above and below… I Am in your past, your present, and your future. I Am with you always. I Am.”

There is infinite peace in “I am”. It’s available. We simply must detach the descriptors that box us into requirements and realize that we have only one true descriptor when we are in Christ – We are children of the Most High God (Psalm 82:6, John 10:34-35). When we truly believe this, we see that we can find peace in trusting that “I am”. Everything else flows from this perfect state of being. Everything else is an “add on” to the essential “I am”.

Remember: We limit God in our thinking, but God is not limited by our thinking.

Luke 9:23 Then He said to them all, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.

God does not promise ease. He promises His Strength, His Presence, His Provision, but He doesn’t promise ease. He promises He will never leave us nor forsake us, but He does not say He won’t challenge us. John 16:33 says that we will have trials and tribulations when we follow Christ.

But, we want ease. We want to serve God, but we want it to be easy. “God, I’m ready to serve you, as long as the salary is right, I don’t have to move, I always have enough money and food, and my children can attend the same school. I’m ready to serve, as long as the church makes me smile, no one says anything hurtful, and everyone does everything my way. I’m ready to do great things for you Lord, as long as I’m not asked to lead, and not asked to follow, and not asked to do anything that I don’t find fun.” In other words, we’ll serve God in the absence of all difficulty. Let’s be honest… this serves no one but self.

When we set out to serve God, we serve knowing there will be difficulties. There will be hard days. There will be sickness. There will be people we disagree with. There will be money concerns. There will be times children stray. There will be unbelieving spouses. There will be friends who turn their backs. There will be family that question the calling.

We serve God, not in the absence of difficulties, but through the difficulties.

I often hear people say, “God won’t put anymore on me than I can stand.” It makes God sound like the logistics clerk and us the “strong person”. God says, “I will not put more on you than I can stand.” He will place whatever His Will requires in our life and, in our weakness, we must cry to Him to carry us. We must call on Christ to strengthen us. If we’re always strong enough to carry what God gives, we’re making ourselves out to be God and able to take on whatever He dishes out. Or, more likely, we’re simply not taking on much for Him.

God or Self? Difficulty or Ease? Is God the Vehicle carrying us or is He the clerk loading us? Expecting ease brings unnecessary difficulty into our daily walk with Him. Expect provision, love, strength, grace, mercy, compassion… expect challenge, trials, persecution, and tribulation. Expect no ease.

We serve God, not in the absence of difficulties, but through the difficulties. Presence of ease may indicate lack of service.

Matthew 13:33 Another parable He spoke to them: “The kingdom of heaven is like leaven, which a woman took and hid in three measures of meal till it was all leavened.”

In physics, there’s an interesting phenomenon called the “Observer Effect.” It states that, simply by observing, the thing being observed is changed. Similar effects can be found in economics, psychology, sociology, human relationships, and even information technology. Presence impacts people and things in the environment, even when there is no intention to impact. Simply by being present, there is an impact.

What is the impact your presence brings? We must be aware that we have an impact on people, places, and things no matter whether we intend to have the impact or not. We bring beliefs, attitudes, talents, experiences, emotions, and many other individual offerings to all interactions. The offering is as unique as the individual bringing it. Some bring impact unconsciously and some bring impact consciously, but all bring impact.

Being conscious of the impact of our presence allows us to choose how we will impact. Choosing positive over negative, love over hate, acceptance over rejection, courage over fear, and understanding over divisiveness allows us to use our presence to improve our surroundings.

Notice that the leaven in the scripture was a small thing that caused an “impactful” change. It takes only one person, acting in a constructive or destructive way, to change a large environment. It’s true of business environments. It’s true of families. It’s true of churches.

Proverbs 29:2 says – When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice; But when a wicked man rules, the people groan. Notice that one wicked man can cause the people to not only stop rejoicing, but to actually begin to groan. A single bad egg spoils it all. We’ve all experienced this. One person spoils the mood of the family gathering. One person changes the mood of the office. If you’ve never had this experience, it may be that you are that one person…

Be positive in presence. Be the person who makes others rejoice by your coming and not by your going. There’s an old joke that says – everyone brings joy… some by showing up and others by leaving.

What is the impact your presence brings? Being an observer doesn’t negate your impact. Be an active participant in how you impact others. Choose to have your presence make a positive, loving impact and improve your environment wherever you find yourself. Be the leaven of Christ and not the leaven of the Pharisees. Jesus spoke of both – one kind leads to the Kingdom of Heaven and the other leads to separation from God.

James 3:5 Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles!

Taming the tongue concerns more than taming the tongue of the mouth. James most likely never imagined a world where people voiced thoughts that reached the eyes of hundreds with the press of the “post” button. In today’s world of social media, e-mail, texts, and all forms of written communication, many use the tongue of the mind to write thoughts as much, if not more than, the tongue of the mouth to speak.

Words spring from our mind. Before the first muscle twitches in our mouth, the tongue of the mind has voiced the thought and sent it flying along the nerve endings to become our speech. Likewise, that same tongue of the mind sends thoughts along nerve endings to quicken our hands as we write. The tongue of the mind is a single fountain from which all our communication flows. Left untamed, it voices hurtful and damaging thoughts about others. Left untamed, it is our own cruelest critic. Left untamed, it voices self-hate and cruel words of criticism that we would never say to someone we love and would never allow another to say to us.

In this time that James likely never imagined, we must exercise extraordinary care. We must care to speak words of self-love and use our thoughts to recognize our true value. We must silence the inner critic. We must muzzle the inner perfectionist, mister or missus “never good enough”. No one needs Greta Gremlin living in our mind… have Positive Pamela throw her out. Train the mind with positive words.

We must also exercise extraordinary care to tame the tongue as it relates to what we write in texts, e-mails, and social media posts. Speak words of encouragement. Muzzle words of criticism. Look only to heal and never to wound.

Proverbs 25:11 says – A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. We have the power to bring the tongue of our mind under much better control. We own our words; therefore, we own their impact. Hurt or healing? Tame the tongue of the mind and the tongue of the mouth will follow.

Galatians 3:13-14 Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us (for it is written, “Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree”), 14 that the blessing of Abraham might come upon the Gentiles in Christ Jesus, that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith.

             How thankful are we to Jesus? Is our thankfulness a leftover? Earlier this week, I was meditating on my degree of thankfulness to Jesus for what He’s done. He was willing to give all His blood for all colors, all nationalities, rich or poor, young or old, sick or healthy – it was not an earthly sister He was dying for, but Jews and Gentiles alike – For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life. Whosoever, that covers everyone.

We will never rise to the right height of Love for Jesus, until we reach the right depth of gratitude for what He did.

Sometimes, we get in our mind that this means Jesus paid a certain price – like He paid for our breakfast… like we forgot our wallet and Jesus stepped up and said – I’ve got you covered. Thank you Jesus… I’ll get yours next time.

This is the wrong level of gratitude. It leaves us feeling in control of our salvation. This is a level that, in our heart, we believe that it was nice of Jesus to die, but salvation can happen other ways too. If we’re on the sausage biscuit level of gratitude with Jesus, we’ll always see Him as someone nice to have when we’re sick or we’re sad. He’s a nice to have, He’s a good friend, but not the very center, the very foundation, the very bedrock of our soul.

Sometimes, we feel gratitude like Jesus paid a big bill for us. We were about to lose our house to foreclosure and Jesus came forward and said – I’ve got this for you. Thank you Jesus… I’ll pay you back every single penny if I have to work the rest of my life.

This is the wrong level of gratitude. Again, it leaves us feeling in control of our salvation. This is a level that, in our heart, we believe that not many others could have done what Jesus did, but there’s still other ways. He’s generous and kind, but we don’t reach true thankfulness.

You see, anytime we’re on a level of gratitude that is shared in any way with anyone or anything else, we’re on the wrong level of gratitude for Jesus.

Listen to verse 13 Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us (for it is written, “Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree”), Jesus didn’t buy a biscuit for us… He didn’t get us out of foreclosure… He didn’t pay an earthly debt. He paid an eternal debt. He Became the Curse for us. 2 Corinthians 5: 21 tells us: For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him. He became Sin… who’s sin? My sin, your sin. Could anyone else have done this for us? No – He’s not a sausage biscuit savior or a foreclosure savior. Jesus did something that no one else could do. He became our sin to make us righteousness. Anytime we’re on a level of gratitude that is shared in any way, with anyone or anything, we’re on the wrong level of gratitude for Jesus.

And God turned away from Him – Matthew 27:46 And about the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, “Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?” that is, “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?” God would not look upon the ugliness of sin Christ had become. Are we thankful on that level? Are we thankful on the “God turned away from His own Son” level? Are we thankful on the “Christ was forsaken in darkness” level? When we get there, we’ll cry and we’ll sob and our love for Him will soar because our thankfulness is so deep!

This week, be this level of thankfulness. Be the “Jesus became my sin so I could become righteousness before God” level of thankful. Allow the Truth of what Jesus did on the cross to become plain. He’s our High Priest – Our Shepherd – greatly to be praised and appreciated! He’s no sausage biscuit savior… He’s Lord of lords, King of kings, He died, rose, and lives that we might one day live with Him. When we get our mind around this, leftovers will never be on the menu for Jesus Christ again. He’ll never again get what’s left. He’ll receive the first of our fruits and the deepest thankfulness of our hearts.

We will never rise to the right height of Love for Jesus, until we reach the right depth of thankfulness, of gratitude for what He did.

Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.

We’ve all heard someone say – it’s not what they said, but how they said it! In fact, most of us have either said or thought this at one time or another. The words were true, but how they came out made them ineffective because of the way they came out.

I once counseled a young woman from New Jersey. She was upset that people reacted angrily to her suggestions. They closed off. They argued. They refused to hear even the most plainly positive suggestions. She asked me why. My response shocked her – It’s not your words, but the texture of your speech that’s the obstacle.

Speech has texture. Much like a silk handkerchief feels good on the nose, but a steel wool pad doesn’t, so our words come with texture. The good news is that we get to choose what words we use and thereby control the texture. We need not choose steel wool when silk will serve the purpose and leave no mark.

A craftsman chooses his tool very carefully. He doesn’t use a sledgehammer to seat decorative tacks in a cabinet face. He uses a small tack hammer. He doesn’t swing like he’s breaking rock, but like he’s gently seating a tack. He uses the smallest nail that will do the job adequately.

Too often, in our speech, we send a chainsaw to do what fine sandpaper will accomplish. We fell the tree rather than trim the branch. We use words that are abrasive and unkind when gentle and kind words are the tool most needed. We “set them straight”, “get our point across”, “give them what for”, and sit and wonder why our message is rejected and a battle ensues.

I know no one wants to hear this, but this is the speakers failing. The problem lies not with the receiver, but with the sender. The sender has chosen the wrong time, tool, or texture. Success is more likely when we first consider: Are my words from a place of love? If not, stop. Are my words gentle? If not, stop. Are my words kind? If not, stop.

Choose the texture of communication first, match the words to the texture, then time the message appropriately. It’s seldom our words, but rather the texture of our speech that leads to hurt. Be Gentle, Be Kind, Be Love.

Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

1 Corinthians 15:33 says this a different way – Bad company corrupts good character. The company we keep matters. As parents, we’re very aware of our children and the company they keep. Yet, we’re not as aware when it comes to the company we keep.

Age does not make us immune to this proverb. Negative people, evil people, and people with worldly values will always dull our walk with God. When we associate closely with these people, the messages we are receiving reflect the values they hold. Our ears hear hopelessness, fear, anger, greed, lust, pride. Our eyes see stuff and worldly status symbols. This dulls our sense of who God is and what He is doing in this world. Our company is corrupting our character – there is no iron to sharpen our countenance upon.

When we associate with positive people, good people, and people with spiritual values, our countenance is sharpened and our walk with God is brightened. The messages we receive are messages of confidence, hope, love, generosity, and humility. Our hearts are filled with the gifts of the spirit. Our eyes see smiles and appreciation of the blessings of life. This sharpens our sense of who God is and the mighty Masterpiece He is creating in this world. It makes us appreciative of being allowed to be a small part of His plan. Our character is refreshed – we sharpen our inner spirit against the spirit of our brothers and sisters.

What’s the company you’re keeping? Negative or positive? What kind of company are you? Negative or positive? Are you iron for another to sharpen against? Or do you watch the nightly news and read negative internet posts and pass this along to your spouse, friends, and children? 

Too often, we forget that the Bible speaks to each individual – I am an individual, you are an individual. When the Bible says, “One person sharpens the countenance of another like iron sharpens iron”, it is saying that each of us has impact on the inner feelings of those we come in contact with. We have the ability to create happiness, joy, and blessings! We have the ability to lift someone from a low place to a higher place by our words, actions, and presence. We must choose to be that person and to interact with our brother or sister in this way. 

Happiness or sadness, positive or negative – with each breath we choose what we “gift” others. Choose your gift wisely.

Ephesians 5:2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

Each of us has a defined idea of what love looks like. To some, roses are meaningful. To others, they’re a waste of money. Some value time with one another. Others value time away from one another. Each of us defines, from an early age, what love looks like to us.

In order to truly love another person effectively, we must first understand how that person defines love. What does love look like to that person? To an overwhelmed mother, it may look like a night out on the town. To an overwhelmed executive, it may look like quiet time at home. We MUST  accept the fact that people understand love based on their personal definition, not ours. It’s a zero value effort to “wish someone loved” in a way that he or she doesn’t understand and define love. Many tears have been shed throughout time over a love who does not love like we understand. 

Consider love to be a key to a door. When I look at the key to the front door of my house and compare it to the key to the front door of my neighbors house, I see that they are not the same. They may have a similar shape. They may share some similar rises and falls. But, they are not the same. My key will not open the front door of my neighbors house. My key has a unique pattern.

Each of us has an infinitely unique pattern that is the key to our heart. There is a unique pattern that will unlock that door. I can use my unique key on your unique lock all day long and I will never succeed in gaining access. I must understand your unique pattern, the pattern that developed based on childhood, friendships, past relationships, self-beliefs, past traumas, and the list goes on.

To truly love another, we must endeavor to understand their pattern. We must love as they understand and realize that they can only love as they understand. To expect them to love as we understand is nonsense and will only lead to frustration and sadness. It requires a choice on their part to seek to understand our pattern. It’s only when they endeavor to understand our pattern that they can understand how to unlock our heart. It is a choice.

Jesus loves us perfectly. He is the Master key. He sees the patterns in our hearts and He loves us in the way that we understand. He loves us in a way that doesn’t condemn or judge, but forgives and encourages. As we open to Him, He changes our pattern, heals our hearts, so we love more like Him.

As we grow in Christ, we seek to love others purely, not needing them to match our pattern to be loved, but seeking to understand theirs. We will never have a master key to hearts as Jesus does, but we can become more and more like Him. As we learn to love without judgment and condemnation, hearts open to our love and encouragement.